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- FLORIDA MARRIAGE LICENSE BY MAIL
- TIME LINE GOALS
- WEDDING DAY CHECK LIST
- WEDDING PROCESSIONAL
- TRADITIONS WHO PAYS FOR WHAT
- SOME TRADITIONAL WEDDING RESPONSIBILITY
- WEDDING CEREMONY
- WEDDING HISTORICAL TRADITIONS
- THE WEDDING PARTY
- THE WEDDING CEREMONY
- GETTING YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE
- DESTINATION WEDDINGS
- SOME POPULAR ETHNIC TRADITIONS
FLORIDA MARRIAGE LICENSE BY
Out of states brides (non Florida
residency) can apply for Florida Marriage License by mail through Paul
an approval wedding coordinator for the clerk of the State of Florida.
The cost is only $200 if forms received by Paul 60 days prior to the
marriage. After 60 days prior to your marriage date add $5 dollars a
day additional charge.
After After studying weddings
from around the world there are many traditions, no right and wrong
ways to perform a wedding and reception, but, at a Coconut Cove Dream
Wedding the only right way is the way the Bride and the Groom wants,
that is what is truly in our hearts, to make your dreams come true.
TIME LINE GOALS
12-24 MONTHS BEFORE YOUR WEDDING DAY
Agree with your spouse-to-be and your family on your Wedding date and
then select your location, the most important decision next to your
spouse. Decide on a Preliminary Wedding Budget.
30 DAYS AFTER BOOKING YOUR WEDDING VENUE Prepare
a guest list and send out the invitations, required if blocking rooms.
Agree on a bridal registry. Call up and Select the bridesmaids. Agree
on a date to order bridesmaids' dresses. Choose a beautiful place for
your Honeymoon. Apply for passports, if needed. You must have wedding
insurance it is very inexpensive with Coconut Cove Resort & Marina
listed as additionally insured we recommend by Fireman's Fund which
can be purchased at about $400 for a $15,000. Wedding insurance call
1 800 ENGAGED 1 800 364-2433 or see the site at www.rvnuccio.com www.wedsure.com
6 MONTHS BEFORE YOUR WEDDING DAY
Make airline reservations. Select the Rehearsal Restaurant.Make spread
sheet of guest list replies. Look for a Wedding gown and allow time
for alterations and fittings. Shop for and order wedding favors.
60 DAYS PRIOR TO YOUR WEDDING DAY
This is your deadline to finalize all items in your dream wedding planning
proposal package and this is the date your first payment is due. Make
final alterations and fittings for the Wedding Gown.
30 DAYS BEFORE YOUR WEDDING DAY
This is your hard deadline to finalize remaining details in your dream
wedding planning package proposal and also when your final payment is
due. Fill out and submit application for the marriage license. Print
our your Ceremony programs or send to a local printing shop.(Samples
are at the bottom of the vows page) Buy your wedding bands. Start calling
your guest list and finalize. Finalize music list and no-play list with
band or DJ. Make reservations for bridesmaids' luncheon. Attend showers.
2 WEEKS BEFORE YOUR WEDDING DAY
The final count is due and your final payment is due if any is to be
mailed. Check your rehearsal dinner reservations. Deadline to have an
appointment with a Beauty Salon for day of wedding. Discuss with the
hairstylist your hairstyle for your wedding day. Verify the bridal party
clothing. Send a wedding announcement to the local newspapers, if you
wish. Make necessary arrangements for name & address change, if
any. The ceremony details should be finalized with Paul or Contact your
minister and discuss final ceremony details
1 WEEK BEFORE YOUR WEDDING DAY
Start packing for your Wedding and your Honeymoon..Visit your Beauty
Salon for manicure and pedicure. Make sure the ushers have the final
guest list. Make sure you have gathered the items on the Brides
Wedding Day Checklist. Make sure you have tickets and reservation materials
for the honeymoon.
1 DAY BEFORE YOUR WEDDING DAY
Attend rehearsal and finalize wedding processional and then head off
to your rehearsal dinner for a great night.
YOUR WEDDING DAY
Make sure you eat something. Visit your Beauty
Salon for Hair styling & make-up. (Bring veil & headpiece).
Pin your veil if a windy day on the beach. Make sure the Wedding Gown
is pressed and steamed. Relax you are in Paul's and Magda's hands the
experts in flawless dream weddings and savor the magic of your Special
PACKING LIST AND WEDDING DAY
DOUBLE CHECK YOUR LIST BEFORE LOCKING YOUR DOOR ON THE WAY TO YOUR
KEYS DREAM WEDDING
Wedding gown and repair set with bobby pins and baby pins
Veil and headpiece, note pin or add weights on windy days
Special bra, panties
Shoes, note you can were high heels on our beach (hard packed special
Nail polish and file
Curling iron, curlers
Hairspray, hair accessories, extra bobby pins
Marriage License - give to minister Paul or your minister
Toothbrush, toothpaste, breath mints
Iron or steamer (the hotel has iron, Islamorada Dry Cleaners can steam
Garter and the rings
Penny or sixpence
Ring pillow (We can provide at no cost)
Computer and cell phone with chargers
ID, purse, wallet and money
Bikini and swim shorts
Shades and reading glasses
Plane tickets, passport, cruise documents or honeymoon details
Don't forget the groom and his shirt, pants and shoes
Inventory list faxed or emailed to Paul & Magda, with everything,
favors, gift bags, guest book, engraved champagne glasses, gift card
box, picture frames, tributes, guest seating chart, escort cards, and
table names, ring bearers pillow or shell, garter, disposable camera's,
cake toppers, marriage license.sand ceremony set, and sand ceremony
vase/fish bowl/cookie jar.
After all guests have been seated,
1. The Grooms Mother is escorted to the front row on the right
side of the beautiful beach chapel for the ceremony. This is ordinarily
done by an usher, but can also be done by the grooms father.
2. The Brides Mother then follows, escorted by an usher, who delivers
her to her place in the front row on the left side of the chapel or
area setup for the ceremony.
Note: The seating of the brides mother is the traditional indication
that the wedding is about to begin.
3. At this point the Minister enters with the Groom, usually from a
side of the beach chapel, to take his place at the alter or focal point
of the ceremony.
Note: The ministers presence brings the preparatory part of the
ceremony the musical prelude and gathering of the guests to a
4. Optional if groomsmen not walking with maids, the room can be next
followed by his Best Man, takes his place at the front of the church
or focal point on the right.
Note: The groom and best man turn and face the guests or the entrance
from which the bride will enter.
5. Now the music selected for the processional is started, and the Ushers
proceed down the aisle, taking their places along side the groom and
best man. Note: If there is not room to stand beside them, then they
should stand directly behind the best man in a row.
6. Once the ushers are situated, the Brides Maids begin their
procession, and take their place on the left at the front, leaving room
for the maid of honor and the bride herself. Note: If there is not room
to stand beside them, then they should stand directly behind the maid
of honor in a row.
7. Following the brides maids, the Maid of Honor will enter, taking
her place to the right of the brides maids and leaving room for
the bride at the center of the aisle.(Paul will instruct the maid of
honor to adjust the train and veil.
8. The maid of honor is followed by the Ring-Bearer, who has the actual
rings for the ceremony, normally carried on a pillow.
9. Next, the Flower Girl or girls enter, who scatter the aisle with
flowers for the bride to walk on enter. They proceed down the aisle
and take their place on the left side of the brides maids.
10. Now everyone is prepared for the Brides entrance and selected
music is played such as the traditional wedding march or other song.
She is escorted down the aisle on her fathers left arm, who then,
traditionally kisses her farewell after the minister asks who gives
this women in marriage. Her father then takes his place beside the brides
mother and the ceremony begins!
RECESSION RECEIVING LINE
In the Christian Wedding the receiving line is formed after the bride
and groom and the wedding party have left the beach or the front of
the area setup for the wedding ceremony. It is my experience that a
formal receiving line is utilized only 10% of the time. Only the most
formal outdoor weddings will have a receiving line. This is also the
case at historic properties such as at an inn or bed & breakfast.
Most often, the bride and groom choose to personally greet the guests
by stopping by each table during the banquet or by casually mingling
during the reception.
When a receiving line is used the following is the traditional placement:
Maid of Honor
Note: The following wedding party members are not usually a part of
the receiving line: Best Man, Grooms Father, Groomsmen, Flower
Girl, Ring Bearer & Clergyman (Minister).
WHO PAYS FOR WHAT?
Cultural backgrounds and individual convictions heavily influence the
decision-making in Wedding traditions. Nevertheless, the following is
a general guide that should be construed as such... and adopted as you
THE BRIDE TYPICALLY PAYS FOR:
The Wedding ring for the Groom
Gifts for the Attendants
The Wedding gift for the Groom
THE GROOM TYPICALLY PAYS FOR:
The Bride's rings including the Engagement ring
Wedding gift for the bride
The marriage license
The Groom's men gifts
Flowers for the Bride
The going-away corsage,
corsages for mothers, special ladies;
The boutonnieres for men in wedding party
Fee for minister or notary
THE GROOM'S FAMILY TYPICALLY PAYS FOR:
Clothing for the Wedding
The Wedding gift for the newlyweds
THE BRIDE'S FAMILY TYPICALLY PAYS FOR:
The costs of the reception.
The Bride's Wedding attire/trousseau
Invitations, announcements, thank you notes
The seating assignment chart, napkins and mailing costs
Bridesmaids, flower girl, ring bearer flowers and accessories
All gratuities for all services: parking, security
THE ATTENDANTS TYPICALLY PAY FOR:
Their Wedding clothes
Wedding gift for newlyweds
ATTENDANTS TRADITIONAL RESPONSIBILITIES
SOME TRADITIONAL POSSIBLE MAID/MATRON OF HONOR RESPONSIBILITIES:
The maid or matron of honor is usually a sister or very close friend.
Choose some dependable. If you choose, you may have both a maid (single)
and a matron (married) of honor takes precedence at the ceremony, and
signs as you legal witness.
Before the Wedding: The maid of Honor may plan your wedding and take
care of details for you. If she lives nearby she might help address
invitations, plan pre-wedding parties, make favors or table decorations,
and keep track of gifts received and thank you cards sent. The maid
of honor usually hosts a bridal shower. The bride can delegate care
of bridesmaid's fittings and details. She attends pre-wedding parties.
She attends the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner.
At the Wedding: The maid of honor helps the bride with dressing and
assists with the, train, veil and holding the brides bouquet during
the ceremony. The maid of honor sometimes wears the grooms ring on her
thumb (or carries it in some other safe manner) until it is time for
the blessing and exchange of rings in the ceremony. She is responsible
for having an emergency kit with miscellaneous items such as a needle
and thread, extra nylons, a roll of tape etc.
If you do not have a wedding planner or Paul & Magda overseeing
your details the maid of honor holds on to a duplicate list of desired
shots for the photographer and videographer as well as a song list for
ceremony musicians and a copy of any special prayers or readings to
be used during the ceremony.
The Maid of honor walks in front of the bride in the processional and
with the best man in the recessional and stands near the bride at the
altar. She makes sure that all of the bride's clothing, make-up and
personal belongings are removed from the changing room at the ceremony
site and taken back to the bride's home. She helps to line up bridesmaids
for formal photographs.
At the Reception: The maid of Honor stands next to the groom in very
formal receiving lines.During the reception, she mingles with guest.
She dances with the best man at the reception. She helps the bride with
her train, fastening it to floor length so it is out of the way for
dancing, if necessary. A duplicate copy of the list of names and pronunciations
for the bridal party announcements is kept by the maid of honor. She
also keeps a duplicate song list for the reception musicians or disc
jockey. If the bride needs assistance in tossing her bouquet or in gathering
single women to catch it, the maid of honor can help out. If requested,
she helps the bride dress for the honey moon and makes sure the bridal
gown and other personal clothing items are returned to the bride's home
after the reception. She takes the bridal bouquet for preserving and
may take the gown for heir looming while the bride is on her honeymoon.
Expenses: The maid or matron of honor pays for her own dress and other
attire. She may attend several pre-wedding parties, only one shower
gift and one wedding gift are to be expected. She may share the cost
of bridal shower.
SOME TRADITIONAL POSSIBLE BRIDESMAID RESPONSIBILITIES:
Bridesmaids are usually close friends or family members. When inviting
them, make them aware that there are costs involved as well as a time
commitment. It is an honor to be asked, but may also be a financial
burden. Make friends feel special when you invite them to be part of
The number of bridesmaids usually depends on the formality of your wedding,
with a dozen being the maximum for any wedding. Girls between 8 and
16 are considered to be junior bridesmaids. Junior bridesmaids are not
expected to help with details as much as bridesmaids.
Before the Wedding: Bridesmaids help take care of details for the bride
such as running errands, and making table decorations or favors. Bridesmaids
usually join the maid of honor in hosting a bridal shower. Bridesmaids
attend pre-wedding parties. Bridesmaids attend the rehearsal and the
At the Wedding: Bridesmaids walk in the processional and recessional,
either single file, two together or with an usher. They stand near the
bride during the ceremony. They are in formal photographs of the bridal
At the Reception: Bridesmaids pay for their own dresses and other attire.
If travel expenses are involved, they pay their own cost involved in
getting to the wedding and staying in town during the celebration. Although
bridesmaids may attend several pre-wedding parties, only one shower
gift and one wedding gift are to be expected. Bridesmaids share the
cost of the bridal shower with the maid of honor.
SOME TRADITIONAL POSSIBLE FLOWER GIRL RESPONSIBILITIES:
You may choose one or two little girls to be flower girls. The best
age range is between four and eight. (Although younger ones are cute,
expect that they can create some real challenges during a processional
or ceremony, but this is also fun and cute.) If you choose two girls,
some brides think it looks nice if they are about the same size, but
that may not be possible and is person preference. It can be a special
honor for a child to be chosen as part of you wedding. Before the Wedding:
Flower girls attend the shower and some pre-wedding parties. They attend
the rehearsal and may attend the rehearsal dinner with their families.
At the Wedding: Flower girls walk directly in front of the bride in
the processional and in front of the maid of honor in the recessional.
As flower girls walk down the aisle, they may scatter flower or rose
petals. If petals are not permitted, sometimes flower girls will hand
out single flowers to guest as they walk, or they may just carry a bouquet,
a ring of flowers or a pomander ball. During the ceremony, flower girls
may stand near the bridesmaids or may sit with their families. Younger
ones probably will do better sitting with their families. They are in
the formal photographs of the bridal parties. At the Reception: Flower
girls do not usually stand in the reception line. Flower girls usually
sit at a table of honor with their families. Flower girls may dance
with family members, friends or other members of the wedding party if
they choose to do so. Expenses: Families of flower girls are expected
to pay for dresses and other attire. If travel expenses are involved,
the girls' family pick up these costs. Flower girls are not expected
to bring a gift to pre-wedding parties they may attend. If their parents
attend, gift expectations would be the same as any other guest. If they
attend more than one shower or party, only one shower gift is expected.
Flower girls are not responsible for helping financially with bridal
shower. A headpiece of beautiful baby roses with matching basket of
flowers to spread down the beach isle is typical.
SOME TRADITIONAL POSSIBLE GROOMSMEN & USHER RESPONSIBILITIES:
Before the Wedding: Groomsmen usually help the best man plan the bachelor
party for the groom. Groomsmen attend pre-wedding parties. Groomsmen
attend the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner.
At the Wedding: The main Job of the usher is to seat guests. They should
arrive at the ceremony site at least one hour in advance and should
have clear instructions on the seating plan. In Christian ceremonies,
the bride's family and guests sit on the left and the groom's on the
right. In Jewish services, the seating is opposite, with the bride's
family on the right. Female guests are escorted by having the usher
offer his right arm to her. Her date or spouse walks behind. Male guests
are lead to their seats. If there are pew cards being used or a special
reserved section, ushers should pay special attention as they escort
these guests to their seats. Ushers distribute any programs or ceremony
handouts at the ceremony. Ushers direct those bringing gifts to the
ceremony to a gift table. If there is a guest book at the ceremony,
ushers direct guest to sign it.
After all guests are seated, the ushers escort the groom's parents to
the front row on the groom's side (Unless they are part of the processional.)
Lastly, they escort the bride's mother to her seat, unless she is accompanying
her husband in the processional. The Groomsmen may be part of the processional
or they may take positions in the front with the best man or groom.
They stand near the groom during the ceremony. They are in formal Photographs
of the bridal party. They Escort the bridesmaids from the ceremony in
the recessional. One of the ushers should be responsible to roll the
aisle runner back up after the ceremony and have it cleaned and returned.
One of the ushers should collect any leftover handouts or programs and
see that they get returned to the couple who may want to send them to
family or friends who were unable to attend.
At the Reception: Ushers may be part of the receiving lines in the very
formal or formal weddings. Ushers may be seated at the head table although
not typical used at our beach wedding a sweetheart table is used, sometimes
they sit at a table of honor at the reception. During the reception,
groomsmen mingle with the guest. Groomsmen dance with the bridesmaids
at the reception. They assist by encouraging single young men to participate
in catching the garter.
Expenses: Groomsmen or ushers pay for their own formalwear and accessories.
If travel expenses are involved, they pay their own costs involved in
getting to the wedding and staying in town during the celebration. Although
groomsmen may attend several pre-wedding parties, only one shower gift
and one wedding gift are to be expected. Groomsmen may share the cost
of the bachelor party with the best man.
SOME TRADITIONAL POSSIBLE RING BEARER AND TRAINBEARER RESPONSIBILITIES:
Neither of these is required positions and may be boys or girls. Usually
only one ring bearer is used, but two with one ring per pillow will
work if you have and abundance of four or five year children that you
would like to have involved in the ceremony. Although the rings on the
pillows are usually not the actual wedding rings, you could have two
ring bearers if you are having a double ring ceremony, one for the bride
and one for the groom. Trainbearer or pages usually walk in pairs but
a single trainbearer can be used.Before the Wedding: If ring bearers
and trainbearer are little boys they are not likely to be interested
in any pre--wedding parties. If they are girls, they might want to attend
the shower and some other parties. They attend the rehearsal and may
attend the rehearsal dinner with their families. At the Wedding: During
the Ceremony: The ring bearers (s) carries a pillow with a ring or rings
sewn to it. (These are usually not the real wedding rings but symbolic
ones for show only.)
The ring bearer (s) walks either directly in front of or beside of the
flower girl (s) in the processional and the recessional.
If real rings are tied to the pillow the ring bearer takes the pillow
directly to the maid or honor and/or the best man who will remove the
rings. The trainbearers follow the bride in the processional and recessional,
and carry the bridal train.
The ring and train bearers may stand near the ushers or sit with their
families. They are in the formal Photographs of the bridal party. At
the Reception: Ring and train Bearers do not usually stand in the reception
line. Ring and trainbearers usually sit at a table of honor with their
families. Expenses: Families of ring and train bearers are expected
to pay for attire. If travel expenses are involved, the children's families
pick up these costs. Ring and train bearers are not expected to bring
gifts to any pre-wedding parties they may attend. If their parents attend
gifts expectations would be the same as any other guest. If they attend
more than one party, only one shower gift is expected.
The number of ushers is usually determined by the size of the wedding.
One usher can comfortably seat about fifty guests. Ushers are usually
brothers, relatives or best friends of the groom. In inviting people
to serve as ushers, make sure that they are aware of the expenses involved.
While it is not necessary to have an equal number if ushers and bridesmaids,
it does balance nicely if they walk in pairs in either the processional
SUMMARIES OF TRADITIONS IN RESPONSIBILITIES
OF THE WEDDING PARTY:
Maid of Honor/Personal Attendant:
Helps bride with shopping, invitations and other details as requested.
Attends all pre-wedding events
Pays for own wedding attire
Takes charge of groom's ring during ceremony
Witnesses, signs wedding certificate
Helps bride in arranging veil and dress at ceremony and reception
Returns bride's gown to designated place after wedding.
Purchases and completes fittings of gowns
Performs tasks as assigned by bride
Attends rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
(Assists groom with all details of the wedding day.)
Pays for own attire
Transports groom to the beach chapel or church.
Supervises the grooms men, regarding their dress and duties at ceremony
Takes care of bride's ring until ceremony.
Presents the clergyperson with fee (if applicable).
Signs and witnesses the marriage certificate
Offers the first toast to the bride and groom.
Dances with the bride after the groom and both fathers have danced with
her Prepares the honeymoon car, packs suitcases in car.
Holds for safe-keeping, any tickets, keys, etc. for the groom.
Returns groom's tuxedo to rental shop.
Pays for their own wedding attire
Attends rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
Attends bachelor dinner if there is one
Escorts bridesmaids during the ceremony
Pay for own wedding attire
Make sure principles have flowers before being seated. (Unless this
assigned to another)
Distribute wedding programs. (Unless this task is assigned to another)
Seat guests on appropriate side of church.
Assist elderly guests to seats.
Check church or synagogue for any items left behind.
TRADITIONS FOR MOTHERS ATTIRE:
Tradition holds that the mother of the bride chooses a dress first,
followed by the mother of the groom. Their dresses should complement
each other, as well as the bridal party. For instance, having one mother
in a floor length dress and another in a miniskirt is a major no-no.
Likewise, your mother wearing an orange dress next to your bridesmaids
light green ensembles are bound to make your wedding pictures look tacky.
While your moms shouldnt be wearing the same style and color,
their dresses should coordinate. Generally, at formal weddings, your
mother and mother-in-law should be in floor or tea-length dresses. Semi-formal
or informal weddings allow them to get more creative with the length,
but they still need to make sure they are complementing one another.
Unless your bridesmaids will be wearing black, a mother of the bride
or groom should avoid this color. Until recently, black at weddings
was considered a social blunder and many guests will still look at the
color choice with suspicion. Steer them away from choosing a color that
will raise eyebrows as to whether or not they approve of the marriage.
Dont forget to finish the look with a matching corsage or a small
CEREMONY OPTIONS: CLICK
HERE: Ceremonies, Vows, Prayers, Scriptures, Poems to make your dreams
In the Rose Ceremony, the Bride & Groom give each other a Rose.
Two roses are all that is necessary. The Rose Ceremony is placed at
the end of the ceremony just before being pronounced husband and wife.
If a Unity Sand Ceremony is included it is placed directly following
the Unity Sand Ceremony.
A single red rose is said to mean, "I Love You". It is appropriate
that the first gift as husband and wife should be a single red rose.
A rose has always been considered as a symbol of love and a single rose
has always meant only one thing it means "I Love You."
Often, couples will stop on their exit and hand the mother of the bride
and groom each their Rose, whispering "I Love You" before
proceeding with their exit. Additional roses may also be given to grandparents,
sisters and other special guests.
Unity Sand Ceremony
A Unity Sand Ceremony can easily be added to any marriage ceremony.
It is placed near the end of the ceremony, following the Exchange of
Rings. Mothers sometimes bring forward the sand glasses as they are
escorted forward at the beginning of the ceremony. A Unity Sand Ceremony
set consists of two or four glasses and a large center large mouth vase,
candy jar, or fish bowl. The brides and grooms glasses represent your
individual lives before today. They represent all that you are from
your vast experiences, and they represent your individual families.
Each of you pour into the center container. This represents the closing
of the chapters in your individual "Book of Life" and the
beginning of new chapters as you begin to write a new book as husband
and wife! In another version, the children of the bride or grooms from
previous marriages pour symbolizing the joining of the new family. The
grains or sand in the new glass container representing that even though
you have created a new family, each of you still maintains those characteristics
that makes you individually unique, but in no way can ever be separated
back again. If you are creating a new family you may want to include
the children, this is an excellent way to involve children from a previous
marriage. Mother as head of the house holds also are often pour symbolizing
the joining of the two familiars into one.
Breaking A Glass Ceremony
The traditional Jewish wedding ceremony includes a "breaking of
the glass." Here the Groom, having been offered a glass on a wooden
pallet or wrapped in a cloth napkin, smashes it with his foot. The breaking
of the glass symbolizes the fragility of life, the fact that whatever
we see before us as whole can be broken at any moment. It calls our
attention for the need to care for one another; for just as glass can
be shattered with a single blow, so the grace of the marriage bond can
be shattered with a single act of infidelity or repeated acts of emotional
Include Creatures Great & Small
Include the Children
If you have children you may want to include them at some point in the
ceremony. Often you may just want their names mentioned by the minister
or you may want to include them in a more active role, but be aware
that children will not always share your enthusiasm for the wedding.
Most of the time children can participate by being a flower girl or
a ring bearer of simply by being included in the sand ceremony. Paul
is the very best with "blended" families. (Children from another
parent) He loves a shell necklace giveaway after the rings with his
loving words to show the love and fortune of the new step parent of
having the new step child, and that this marriage is also about them..
Some people give each child a small gift and say some few additional
words to them in addition or also following the exchanging of rings,
occasionally present young girls with there own ring. But normally the
bride and groom present children with a shell necklace or other gift
following the exchange of rings. In giving a small gift, the bride and
groom are symbolizing the fact that this joining, this love and family
are more than the relationship between two people.
INCLUDE A CONGREGATION/FAMILY VOW OF SUPPORT
After reciting your vows you might want me to address your guests and
invite them to make a vow of support to you. It is within the context
of this community that your marriage will be enacted. For example, I
might say, "Now that you have heard ______ and _____ recite their
vows, do you, their family and friends, promise, from this day forward
to encourage them and love them, and to help guide and support them
in being steadfast in the promises they have made?" "We do."
Jumping a Broom.
African-Americans often include the "jumping of the broom"
as a part of their wedding ceremony. This normally takes place at the
end of the ceremony as the couple is departing. Often the broom is decorated
elaborately by the friends and families of the couple.
The years of life are as a cup of wine poured out for you to drink.
This "Cup of Life" contains within it a wine with certain
properties that are sweet and symbolic of happiness, joy, hope, peace,
love and delight. This same wine also holds some bitter properties that
are symbolic of disappointment, sorrow, grief, despair, and lifes
trials and tribulations. Together the sweet and the bitter represent
"Lifes Journey" and all of the experiences that are
a natural part of it. Those who drink deeply from the "Cup of Life"
with an open heart and willing spirit, invite the full range of challenges
and experiences into their being. (Paul pours wine into goblet and holds
it up.) This "Cup of Life" is symbolic of the pledges you
have made to one another to share together the fullness of life. As
you drink from this cup, you acknowledge to one another that your lives,
until this moment separate, have become one with the Holy Spirit. (Paul
hands glass to groom, who drinks, then hands it to bride, who drinks,
who passes it back to pastor.) As you have shared the wine from these
goblets, so may you share your lives. May you find lifes joys
heightened, its bitterness sweetened, and all of life enriched
by Gods blessings upon you. This is sometimes done in private
behind the beach arch, a brief moment away from the guests in a private
ceremony with Minister Paul.
BEST MAN TRADITION
Among the Germanic Goths of northern Europe in 200 A.D., a man usually
married a woman from within his own community. However, when there were
fewer women, the prospective bridegroom would capture his bride from
a neighboring village. The bridegroom was accompanied by his strongest
friend (or best friend), who helped him capture his bride.
This term has many origins from different cultures. In Anglo-Saxon times,
the groom had the help of "bridesmen" or "brideknights"
to help him capture and/or escort his bride. Later they would make sure
that the bride got to the church and to the groom's home afterwards.
The women who accompanied and assisted the bride were called "bridesmaids"
Bridal showers were meant to strengthen the ties between the bride and
her friends, provide her moral support, and help her prepare for her
marriage. Gift giving at showers dates from the 1890's.
The tradition of bridesmaids dressing the same as each other and in
similar style to the bride comes from ancient days when it was believed
that evil spirits have a more difficult time distinguishing which one
is the bride and putting a hex on her.
In the 1st century B.C. in Rome, the cake was thrown at the bride or
broken over her head as one of the many fertility symbols which then
were a part of the marriage ceremony. Cutting the wedding cake together,
still a predominant ritual at weddings, symbolizes the couple's unity,
their shared future, and their life together as one. The three tiered
cake is believed to have been inspired by the spire of Saint Bride's
Church in London, England.
CARRYING THE BRIDE OVER THE THRESHOLD
Traditionally, the bride had to enter her new home the first time through
the front door. If she tripped or stumbled while entering it was considered
to be very bad luck. Hence the tradition of the groom carrying the bride
over the threshold.
DIAMOND ENGAGEMENT RING
The diamond engagement ring originated with King Maximillian who presented
Mary of Burgundy with a diamond ring in 1477 as a token of his love.
The Venetians Popularized the custom during the 15th. Century. Since
the diamond was the hardest and most enduring substance in nature it
followed that the engagement and marriage would endure forever.
In 860 AD, Pope Nicholas I decreed that an engagement ring become a
required statement of nuptial intent. He insisted that engagement rings
had to be made of gold which signified a financial sacrifice on the
part of the prospective husband.
GARTER AND BRIDAL BOUQUET TOSS
In parts of Europe during the 14th century, having a piece of the bride's
clothing was thought to bring good luck. Guests would literally destroy
the brides dress by ripping off pieces of fabric. In order to prevent
this, brides began throwing various items to the guests - the garter
belt being one of the items. In order to avoid this problem, it became
customary in the 14th century for the bride to toss her garter to the
men. Sometimes the men would get drunk, become impatient, and try to
remove the garter ahead of time. Therefore, the custom evolved for the
groom to remove and toss the garter. With that change the bride started
to toss the bridal bouquet to the unwed girls of marriageable age. Tradition
says that whoever catches the bouquet shall be the next to marry. She
keeps the bouquet to ensure this destiny. Sometimes if appropriate the
single man that catches the garter and the single woman that catches
the bouquet are asked to dance together. Note: This happened and that
new introduction of two strangers and the dance of these two created
a love and they were married here at Coconut Cove Resort one year latter.
Who says these traditions do not work!!!
Seeing a lamb, frog, spider, black cat, or rainbows on the way to the
ceremony is believed to be a sign of good luck!
The tradition of a "Groom's Cake" comes from England and Ireland.
There, the traditional groom's cake is a fruit cake with white icing.
The groom's cake is usually served along with the traditional wedding
cake. Today groom's cakes are very often chocolate instead of the traditional
KISS THE BRIDE
The kiss dates back to the earliest days of civilization in the Middle
East. A kiss was used as the formal seal to agreements, contracts, etc.
In Ancient Rome a kiss was still being used as the legal bold to seal
contracts. Hence the obvious use of the custom at the end of the wedding
ceremony to "seal" the marriage vows. It also originates from
the earliest times when the couple would actually make love for the
first time under the eyes of half the village! In past arraigned marriages
after pronouncement the veil would be lifted and the groom would then
be instructed to kiss the wife would be the first time he would see
his new wife's face.
It was the largest mass wedding in history, when nearly 21,000 couples
from the Moonie cult all got married on the same day. The event was
also 'attended' by another 9,800 couples who took their vows via a satellite
Sir Temulji Nariman and his wife Lady Nariman were hitched for a grand
total of 86 years, although they did have a distinct advantage over
most people. Both were aged just five when they got married.
MONTH TO MARRY
According to an old legend, the month in which you marry may have some
bearing on the fate of the marriage:
" Married when the year is new, he'll be loving, kind and true;
When February birds do mate, you wed nor dread your fate;
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you'll know;
Marry in April when you can, joy for Maiden and for Man;
Marry in the month of May, and you'll surely rue the day;
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you will go;
Those who in July do wed, must labor for their daily bred;
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see;
Marry in September's shrine, your living will be rich and fine;
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry;
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember;
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last".
Of course, it's a sad fact that not all marriages last. But some people
really do seem to make a habit of getting divorced. The person who is
credited with being married the most times is former Baptist minister
Glynn Scotty Wolfe, who has taken on 28 brides - and divorced 27 of
MOST EXPENSIVE DRESS
Wedding dresses can make a major dent in your budget, but however much
you spend it will be nothing compared to the outfit created by French
designer Helene Gainville. Estimated to be worth a cool £3.5 million,
the dress is embroidered with diamonds mounted on platinum. Not the
sort of thing you would want to put in the attic after the wedding day.
The oldest recorded bride was Minnie Munro, who got hitched at a sprightly
102 years of age. Minnie, from Australia, wed a toy boy of 82. Britain's
oldest recorded bride was just one day off her 100th birthday when she
took her vows with a man nearly 20 years her junior. Apparently the
age gap was not thought to be a problem for them.
Minister Paul has been fortunate enough to reunite couples after divorcing
each other and put them back together as husband and wife, a very touching
Rice has been used as a symbol of fertility and as a wish for a "full
pantry" in various parts of the world from ancient to modern times.
In the past, rice was not the only thing thrown at the bride and groom
as the left the wedding. Wheat, instead of rice, was thrown in France,
figs and dates were thrown in Northern Africa, and a combination of
coins, dried fruit, and candy was thrown in Italy. In some European
countries eggs are thrown! Rice is not harmful to the birds that eat
it, but an article in California professing this to be the case, has
caused birdseed to replace rice at most weddings. Flower petals, and
bird seed are often used today instead of rice.
Rings were used as currency in the Middle East prior to the advent of
coinage and were a sign of a persons wealth. In ancient times the wedding
ring was thought to protected the bride from "evil spirits".
Ancient Roman wedding rings were made of iron.
In early Rome a gold band came to symbolize everlasting love and commitment
in marriage. Roman wedding rings were carved with two clasped hands.
Very early rings had a carved key through which a woman was thought
to be able to open her husband's heart.
In 3rd. Century Greece the ring finger was the index finger. In India
it was the thumb. The western tradition began with the Greeks who believed
that the third finger was connected directly to the heart by a route
that was called "the vein of love."
In almost half of US weddings either the bride or groom has been married
SHOES TO THE CAR
This tradition originated in England during the Tudor period. At that
time, guests would throw shoes at the bride and groom as they left in
their carriage. It was considered good luck if their carriage was hit.
Today, more often than not, it is beverage cans that are tied to a couples
car instead of shoes. It should also be noted that the English consider
it good luck if it rains on their wedding day!
In Sparta, during the height of Greek civilization, soldiers were the
first to hold stag parties. The groom would have a party for his friends
the night before he was to marry. He would bid farewell to his bachelorhood
and pledge his continued allegiance to his comrades.
In early times, for Christians, Sunday was the original day of choice
for weddings because it was not a work day. The Puritan revolution in
England during the 17th century changed all that - because the Puritans
thought it improper to be festive on the Sabbath, Saturday.
SOMETHING "OLD", "NEW", "BORROWED",
The tradition of carrying one or more items that are "old",
"new", "borrowed" and "blue" also comes
from English. There is an old English rhyme describing the practice
which also mentions a sixpence in the brides shoe. Something old, signifying
continuity, could be a piece of lace, jewelry, or a grandmother's handkerchief.
Something new, signifying optimism in the future, could be an article
of clothing or the wedding rings. Something borrowed, signifying future
happiness, could be handkerchief from a happily married relative or
friend. Something blue, signifying modesty, fidelity and love, comes
from early Jewish history. In early Biblical times, blue not white symbolized
purity. Both the bride and groom usually wore a band of blue material
around the bottom of their wedding attire, hence the tradition of "something
blue". Originally the sixpence was presented to the bride by her
future husband as a token of his love. Today, very often, it is the
bride's father who places a coin in the brides shoe prior to leaving
home for the church.
"TO TIE THE KNOT"
The term "tie the knot" also goes back Roman times. The bride
would wear a girdle that was tied in many knots which the groom had
the "duty" of untying.
The term originates from the sixteenth century. At that time a small
piece of bread would be placed in a goblet of wine. The goblet would
be passed from guest to guest until it reached the person being honored
who would drain the goblet and eat the morsel of bread in the bottom.
This tradition is practiced at weddings today - usually in the form
of one or more champagne "toasts". The best man has the honor
of giving the first toast. Usually the bride and groom remain seated
for the toasts while all the guests are usually standing to honor them.
The couple may then make a few remarks thanking their families, wedding
party members, and guests. They may also "toast" each other
or share a "toast" together. Often special glass or silver
goblets are used by the bride and groom.
The tradition of tying tin cans to the back of the newlywed's vehicle
originated long ago when items which would produce noise were tied to
the back of the couple's carriage to scare away evil spirits.
Brightly colored veils were worn in ancient times in many parts of the
world and were considered a protection against evil spirits Greek and
Roman brides for yellow or red veils (representing fire) to ward off
evil spirits and demons. At one time, Roman brides were completely covered
with a red veil for protection. In early European history, with the
advent of arranged marriages veils served another purpose - to prevent
the groom from seeing the brides' face till after the ceremony was over.
Brides began to wear opaque yellow veils. Not only could the groom not
see in, the bride could not see out! Therefore, the father of the bride
had to escort her down the aisle and literally give the bride to the
today, prior to a Jewish wedding ceremony, it is the groom who ritually
"veils the bride". This tradition goes back to the marriage
of Jacob to Leah (the older sister) when he thought he was marrying
Rachel (the younger sister) whom he loved.
WEARING A WEDDING RING
The reason that the engagement ring and wedding band is worn on the
fourth finger of the left hand is because the ancient Egyptians thought
that the "vein of love' ran from this finger directly to the heart.
WEDDING AS A TERM
Although some brides were kidnapped, marriage by purchase was the preferred
method of obtaining a wife. The "bride price" could be land,
social status, political alliances, or cash. The Anglo-Saxon word "wed"
meant that the groom would vow to marry the woman, but it also referred
to the bride price (money or barter) to be paid by the groom to the
bride's father. The root of the word "wedding" literally means
to gamble or wager!
WHITE WEDDING DRESS AS TRADITION
The tradition for the bride to wear a white wedding dress began in the
16th century and is still commonly followed today. This is a symbol
of the bride's purity and her worthiness of her groom. The tradition
became solidified during the time of Queen Victoria who rebelled against
the royal tradition for Royal brides to wear silver. Instead, the queen
preferred the symbolism, which is expressed by wearing white. The brides
of the time quickly emulated the queen, and the tradition has continued
in full force to this day.
WHY THE BRIDE STANDS TO THE GROOMS LEFT
After the bridegroom captured his bride, he placed her on his left to
protect her, thus freeing his right hand or sword hand against sudden
WHY IT BECAME "BAD LUCK" FOR THE GROOM TO SEE BRIDE BEFORE
Until relatively recently, brides were considered the property of their
father. Their futures and husbands were arranged without their consent.
The marriage of an unattractive woman was often arranged with a prospective
groom from another town without either of them having ever seen their
prospective spouse. In more than one instance, when the groom saw his
future wife, usually dressed in white, for the first time on the day
of the wedding, he changed his mind and left the bride at the altar.
To prevent this from happening, it became "bad luck" for the
groom to see the bride on the day of the wedding prior to the ceremony,
and the bride was kept veiled until after they were married..
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ETHIC TRADITIONS IN WEDDINGS
Paul has studied weddings around the world here is the most Popular
Ethnic & Religious Wedding Traditions
Various wedding customs have their roots and popularity based on ethnic
At some African-American wedding ceremonies, newlyweds "jump over
a broom" to symbolize the beginning of a new life. The ritual was
created during slavery, when African-Americans could not legally marry.
Some people trace this wedding tradition to an African tribal marriage
ritual of placing sticks on the ground representing the couple's new
home. Today, the jumping of the broom is a symbol of sweeping away of
the old, and welcoming the new. Broom Jumping can be performed either
at the wedding ceremony, after the minister pronounces the newlyweds
husband and wife, or at the wedding reception just after the Bridal
Party enters the reception area. A fully decorated broom can be purchased
at ethnic stores. Other couples may prefer to use a regular household
broom decorated with bows, flowers, and/or other trinkets in the wedding
colors. At some receptions, guests may participate in the ceremony by
tying ribbons around the broom before the Broom Jumping begins.
As the Bride walks up the aisle at her Wedding Ceremony, the Bride
stops and hands her mother a flower from her bouquet and they embrace.
After the Wedding Ceremony is finished, the new couple walk to the Groom's
side of the church and the Bride gives her mother-in-law a second flower
from her bouquet and they also embrace.
The Bride may wear a red wedding dress, symbolizing love and joy. At
the wedding reception, a nine-course meal (lasting up to three hours)
is very popular. A family member may act as the official "Master
of Ceremonies" orchestrating family introductions, toasts, comedy
sketches, and a reenactment of the newlywed's courtship.
Eastern Orthodox Church Weddings
The rings are blessed by the Priest, who takes them in hand, and makes
the sign of the cross over the Bride and Groom's head. The "Koumbaros"
(Best Man) then exchanges the rings three times, taking the Bride's
ring and placing it on the Groom's finger, and vice-versa. This exchange
signifies that in married life, the weaknesses of the one partner will
be compensated for by the strength of the other, and the imperfections
of one by the perfection's of the other. Candles are held throughout
the Wedding Service, which begins immediately after the Betrothal Service.
The candles are like the lamps of the five wise maidens of the Bible
who, because they had enough oil in them, were able to receive Christ
when He came in the darkness of the night. The candles symbolize the
spiritual willingness of the couple to receive Christ, Who will bless
them through this sacrament. The Office of the Crowning which follows
is the climax of the Wedding Service. The crowns are signs of the glory
and honor that God crowns them during the sacrament. The Bride and Groom
are crowned as the King and Queen of their own little "kingdom",
their home, which they will (hopefully) rule with wisdom, justice, and
Both the bride and the groom march down the aisle, the groom either
alone or with his parents.
The marrying couple picks a few pairs of ninongs and ninangs (godparents)
to be the primary sponsors/witnesses of the ceremony. In addition to
the bridesmaids and groomsmen, three pairs of wedding attendants act
as secondary sponsors who manage the typical wedding candles, we use
sand ceremony vases because of the gusts associated with the beach nature
of Keys weddings, they also handle the veil and cord ceremonies which
make take place during the nuptial mass. The bride holds an heirloom
rosary along with the bridal bouquet during the ceremony. Generally
the wedding ceremony includes a wine ceremony type mass done in private
with just me as their minister behind the arch lasting two-three minutes.
The entire ceremony with the wine ceremony lasts about thirty minutes.
In addition to exchanging rings, the groom gives his bride an arrhae,
which is a monetary gift in the form of thirteen pieces of gold or silver
coins. This is a pledge from the groom of his dedication to the welfare
of his wife and children. The arrhae is carried by a coin bearer who
walks alongside the ring bearer for both the processional and recessional.
The sand ceremony vase stand on the table up at the arch. The attendants
bring forward these glasses containing the sand which symbolize God's
presence in the union. Most couples integrate the pouring and joining
of the sand into the service after the rings. The Unity sand ceremony
and candle ceremony has its origins in the Protestant religion. After
the sand is joined and the vace is blessed, the veil sponsors drape
a long white tulle veil on the grooms shoulder and pin it. Another veil
is then draped over the bride's head. The veils are used to symbolize
two people who are 'clothed' as one.
The last pair of sponsors stands with a cord in the form of a figure
eight and place one loop around the neck-shoulder area of the bride
and the other loop around the neck-shoulder area of the groom. The cord
symbolizes the infinite bond of the marriage. This cord can be a silken
rope or made from a string of flowers or links of coins.
After the ceremony, during the reception, a pair of our own breed white
love birds are released by the newlyweds out of a white basket to signify
peace and harmony during the marriage. Instead of tossing of the bouquet,
the bride instead offers the flowers to a favorite Saint or the Virgin
Mary. Some older traditions with Filipinos opt to place the bouquet
on the grave of a lost love one. I at times talk to the parents or elders
to integrate the unique customs as they vary from region to region that
I have traveled in Asia.
One early French wedding custom signifies the new alliance created
by uniting two families through marriage. During the Wedding Reception,
the new couple raise a glass of wine from two different vineyards. They
then pour their wine into a third glass and each drinks from it.
During the wedding ceremony, the Groom may kneel on the hem of the
Bride's dress to symbolize his control over her. Not to be outdone,
the Bride may step on the Groom's foot when she rises to symbolize her
power over him!
Some newlyweds wear a crown of flowers during the wedding ceremony.
The couple may walk around the altar three times representing the Holy
Trinity. At the reception, Greek folk dances are popular, with guests
lining up in a single file line.
During the wedding ceremony, thirteen gold coins (representing the
Groom's dowry to his Bride) are often blessed by the priest, and passed
between the hands of the newlyweds several times before ending with
the Bride. A large rosary or white rope ("laso") is sometimes
wound around the couple's shoulders in a figure-8 symbol of "infinity"
during the wedding ceremony to symbolize their union as one.
Wedding traditions always vary across religion, caste, ethnicity, language,
region, especially in Asia. Traditional Indian weddings are generally
structured into pre-wedding ceremonies, wedding day ceremonies (consisting
of the Baraat, the Varmala and the Phere), and the Vidaai.
Vidaai is when the bride is formally sent to the grooms household.
It can get quite emotional even for the most stonehearted. Many heart-wrenching
songs have immortalized this moment when the bride leaves her babul
ka ghar or fathers house
An example of the complexity of an Indian wedding can be seen from
the various phases of a wedding in the North. The following events take
place in a typical Eastern Uttar Pradesh Hindu marriage:
According to Hindu religious texts, Brahma created man from the right
shoulder and woman from his left shoulder. A woman is referred to as
Vamangi or one who is on the left side. Throughout the marriage ceremony
the bride sits on the right side of the groom. That is the place for
strangers and acquaintances. Only after the Saptpadi, when the bride
and groom have exchanged marital vows, is the wife sealed on the left
side of the man.
Bride and groom are told about their duties and responsibilities in
married life by the minister. These vows direct the couple to a positive
path of action. They help in promoting marital happiness for a lifetime.
Vows by the Husband
1.I will consider my wife to be The better half. I will look after
her just as I look after myself.
2.Accepting her as in-charge of my home, I shall plan things in consultation
3.I will never express dissatisfaction about any shortcomings in my
wife. If there are any, I will explain them to her lovingly. I will
support her in overcoming them.
4.I will always have faith in my wife. I will never look at another
woman with wrong intent, nor have an illicit relationship.
5.I will be affectionate and treat my wife like a friend.
6.I will bring home all my income to my wife. The household expenses
will be incurred with her consent. I will always make an effort to ensure
her comfort and happiness.
7.I will not find fault or critical my wife before others. We will sort
out our differences and mistakes in privacy by ourselves.
8.I will have a courteous and tolerant attitude towards my wife. I will
always follow a compromising policy.
9. If my wife is unwell, or is unable to fulfill some of the responsibilities
or through some misunderstanding behaves wrongly, I will not withdraw
support or refuse to fulfill my responsibilities towards her.
During kanyadaan, the brides parents give their daughter away
in marriage. The groom makes three promises to be just (dharma),
earn sufficiently to support his family, (artha) and love his wife (kama).
He repeats these vows thrice in the presence of Agni (the sacred fire)
and all who are gathered there.
Bariksha is when the bride's parents have informally shown intentions
that they want a particular groom, and the groom and his family have
agreed. Retracting at the end of this stage is frowned upon but is acceptable.
Tilak involves the bride's parents traveling to the groom's place to
formalize the relationship. A large feast is organized by the groom's
family to celebrate this occasion. Only a nominal number of members
of the bride's family are present (usually only very close relatives,
often in tens of numbers. Typically, the female marriage proposal is
Byaha Haath: This ceremony signifies the purifying of the mind, body
and soul of bride and groom. This daytime ceremony prepares both of
them for the nuptials. 'Uptan' is a mixed paste of sandalwood, turmeric
and rose water which is applied by seven unmarried female members of
the families and to the faces, hands and feet of the bride and groom.
After this ceremony the bride and the groom are not allowed to step
outside the house before the actual wedding.
In the early 1900's, an Irish couple would walk to church together
on their Wedding Day. If the people of their parish approved their union
they would throw rice, pots, pans, brushes and other household items
at the couple as they approached their church. Today, "hen parties"
(Bridal Showers) have replaced this practice. Some Irish people wear
a "claddagh" ring for a wedding ring. This ring was created
by a master goldsmith, Richard Joyce, 400 years ago in a fishing village
called Claddagh, which overlooks Galway Bay. The claddagh symbolizes
love, loyalty, and friendship. On the right hand, with the heart facing
inward, it means the wearer's heart is unoccupied. Facing outwards reveals
love is being considered. When worn on the left hand facing outward,
it signifies that the wearer is seriously committed or married. At some
Irish wedding receptions, the Groom is lifted in a chair ("jaunting
car") to celebrate that he is a married man. For good luck, the
newlyweds are given a horseshoe to display in their home in the upward
position. A traditional Irish wedding cake is a fruitcake. Traditional
Irish toasts, in addition to remarks from the Best Man, are very popular.
Irish Marriage Blessing
May God be with you and bless you;
May you see your children's children.
May you be poor in misfortune,
Rich in blessings,
May you know nothing but happiness.
From this day forward.
Some Brides may choose to carry a white silk or satin purse ("busta")
to store gifts of money that are welcomed. "Tarantella" folk
dances are popular at the wedding reception. Another Italian custom
is to present five sugar-coated almonds to the guests which represent
health, wealth, long life, fertility, and happiness.
The Bride and her Parents might visit the Groom's house on wedding
day. At the wedding ceremony, the Bride's wedding gown is often a traditional
wedding kimono. She usually changes into something else at the wedding
reception. The first of nine sips of sake drunk by the Bride and Groom
at their wedding ceremony symbolizes the official union of marriage.
It is a Jewish tradition for a Bride to present her Groom with a tallit
to wear for his Aufruf, the reading of the Torah prior to their ceremony.
The Groom's family often give candlesticks to the Bride that can be
used during the actual wedding ceremony. It is also a custom for Jewish
men to cover their heads at all times, especially during prayers, with
a kippot (yarmulkes), as a form of reverence, respect, and acknowledgment
that God is present everywhere. In some congregations, women also cover
their heads to pray.
Some Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform wedding ceremonies take place
under a chuppah (wedding canopy). The chuppah is a rectangular piece
of cloth large enough for the Bride, Groom, Rabbi, and sometimes other
members of the wedding party to stand under. The chuppah signifies the
new home about to be shared by the newlyweds. Before the procession
to the chuppah, the tanaim are signed, and the Groom is asked if he
is ready to take on the responsibilities outlined in the kepubah. He
signifies his willingness by accepting a handkerchief or other object
offered to him by the Rabbi. The two witnesses to this sign the ketubah.
While the actual text of the ketubah is never meant to vary, the border
decorations on this document have over the centuries been the subject
of remarkable artistic creations. At the beginning of the wedding ceremony,
the Bride might observe the Biblical custom of "Circling the Groom"
seven times. This practice is seen as a powerful act of definition,
where the Bride will symbolically create the space that they will share
as husband and wife. In Judaism, the number seven is mystical and represents
completion and fulfillment. Just as the creation of the world was finished
in seven days, the seven circles complete the couple's search for each
The bedeken, or veiling, is a small ceremony in which the Groom lowers
the veil over the Bride's face, and by this act acknowledges that he
is marrying the correct woman. This custom originated in the story of
Jacob who didn't see the face of his Bride prior to his wedding and
was tricked into marrying Leah instead of his intended, Rachel.
The Jewish marriage ceremony consists of two parts: Erusin (pre-engagement)
and Nissuin (marriage). These ceremonies were historically performed
up to one year apart, but more recently the two have been combined into
one ceremony. The Eursin ceremony begins with Kiddush, the blessing
over the wine. Kiddush is part of virtually all Jewish observances as
a prayer of sanctification. The exchange of rings completes the Erusin
In Jewish law, a verbal declaration of marriage is not legally binding
unless an act of Kinyan, a formal physical acquisition is completed.
This is reached when two witnesses see the Bride accept a ring from
the Groom, and he recites the words of marriage. After the ketubah has
been read at the ceremony, wine is often poured into a new glass, and
the Sheva Berakhot (Seven Benedictions) are recited over it. The Bride
and Groom then drink from the glass of wine. With the ceremony complete,
tradition calls for the Groom to break the wrapped glass by stomping
on it. This final action symbolizes the destruction of the Holy Temple
in Israel, and reminds guests that love is fragile. The audience may
shout Mazel Tov, and the Bride and Groom kiss.
Immediately after the wedding ceremony, the couple may spend a few
private moments together, or Yichud as a symbolic consummation of their
marriage. Later, the Mitzvah, or obligation, of rejoicing at a wedding
reception is incumbent on the Bride, Groom, and guests.
Red beads are sometimes tossed at Newlyweds to bring them good luck.
The Mother of the Bride may choose to place the veil on the Bride before
the wedding ceremony to symbolize her last task that a Mother does on
behalf of her girl before she becomes a married woman. A traditional
folk song ("Twelve Angels") is sometimes played at the reception,
allowing the Bride to transfer her veil, and good luck to be married,
to her Maid of Honor, Bridesmaids, and Flower Girl. A morning wedding
ceremony is sometimes followed with a brief afternoon luncheon, several
hours of downtime when guests return home, and then a long evening wedding
reception. Polka dances and other audience participation events are
The Groom and his Groomsmen often wear Scottish kilts (and traditionally
no undergarments!). The Groom may present the Bride with an engraved
silver teaspoon on their wedding day to symbolize that they will never
go hungry. A traditional sword dance is sometimes performed at their
A Spanish Groom gives sometimes gives his Bride thirteen coins in memory
of Christ and the twelve apostles. The Bride carries them in a small
bag during the Wedding Ceremony as a symbol that the Groom promises
to support and care for her.
We are well studied in the wonderful traditions around the world, congratulations
on your engagement...God Bless minister Paul
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